Embracing Solitude: The Way I Find How To Enjoy in Doing Things Alone

As I grew up, I discovered that doing things by myself isn't a bad thing at all. In fact, some activities are really comfortable when you do them alone.

Before we jump into this blog, let me share something with you. I'm an introvert, like, almost 90% introverted. I prefer spending time with my close friends and don't really enjoy big social gatherings that much. That's why most of the time, I go everywhere by myself. Of course, if my friends ask me to go somewhere, I will go and enjoy with it. But sometimes when I want to do something right away, and my friends are busy. So, I just go ahead and do those things by myself. I'm not a fan of waiting, and if you follow me on Instagram, you'll see that I often go out alone. Everyone who has read up to here don't get me wrong. I'm not an anti-social person at all.

In this blog, I will talk about three things I usually do on my own and how it feel. And I hope you guys find that my blog is useful.

#1 Eating Food Alone

I know that nowadays, it's normal to eat alone. But in the past, me and many people preferred to have someone with us when we ate, right? It felt like if we didn't have company, the meal wouldn't taste as good. But when I started university, my friends and I had our own schedules and went home separately. Sometimes I'd get hungry on the way home and didn't have anyone with me. So, I thought about trying to eat alone, and it wasn't as bad as I thought.

At first, I was scared of what others might think when they saw me eating alone. But they didn't pay any attention to me; they were busy with their own lives. That's when I stopped worrying about eating alone. But even now, there are still some types of food or restaurants that make me feel awkward eating alone, like shabu or buffet places. It feels like you should have friends with you for those.

There's one restaurant, "Sushiro," where I finally dared to eat alone in the first half of this year. I used to always go there with others, but that day, I was really craving it, and my friends had already gone home. So, I challenged myself to eat there alone. Luckily, it was late morning, and not many people were there. That made me feel comfortable eating at Sushiro by myself because there were only a few people around.

However, I've promised myself that one day, I'll be brave enough to eat everything by myself.

#2 Watching Movies in Cinema Alone

When I was young, I used to go to the cinema with my mom. But as I grew up, the kinds of movies I liked changed. They weren't the ones my mom enjoyed watching with me. Plus, me and my friend’s interest are not the same. Sometimes, there were movies we all wanted to see, but our schedules didn't match up. So, I started going to see the movies alone for many years. I mean, if my friends were free and wanted to join, I'd be totally fine with that. But that didn't happen very often.

Personally, when I go to the cinema alone, I usually don't buy popcorn because I think I can't finish it all on my own. But sometimes, I get a craving, so I buy a small size, and guess what? I end up finishing it all, haha!

I also enjoy collecting the little gifts that some movies give to people who watch them on the first few days. These items are like souvenirs that, when I look at them in the future, it will remind me of the time I saw that movie. They have sentimental value to me. When the movie that I really want to watch come into the cinema, I make an effort to see it on the first day. This way, I can get those gifts and avoid any spoilers.

There are good things about watching movies by myself. First, I can go to see a movie whenever and wherever I want. Second, I can really pay attention to the most important parts of the movie and understand all the messages it's trying to tell us.

When I go with friends, we often talk to each other during the movie, and that can make us miss important things that the movie is trying to say.

By the way, I don't hate going to the cinema with others. So, if my close friends are reading this blog, I still want to watch movies with you. Please, join me next time.

#3 Going to Concerts Alone

As I told you, I'm a big fan of KPOP. Previously, I was a fan of MONSTA X, the only group I've been a fan of for many years. I always went to their concerts in Thailand alone because my friends liked different groups. It wasn't a big problem for me. I follow the saying, "Don't give up on your dreams just because no one goes with you." So, I had to go and see my favorite idol even if I didn't have anyone with me.

Actually, my mom drove me to the concert but didn't come inside with me. She waited for me until the concert was over. I really appreciated her for that, and I'm thankful that she understands me.

On the day of the concert, I met some people I knew from Twitter. They were also fans of MONSTA X, just like me. We had connected through social media and became good friends. Being with them made me feel less lonely. However, we didn't buy tickets in the same zone. So, when entering the concert, we have to separate from each other.

I like to get there very early in the morning because I want to take pictures with the backdrop and on the concert day, most of the fans will make giveaways to give and take or exchange. I really love this part because people are so nice and lovely.

Before the concert begins, I make sure to fill up on food. I usually go to McDonald's because it's easy and makes me feel full. After eating, my mom and I decide on a place to meet after the concert so we can find each other easily when it's over.

A few years ago, and even this year, I went to many other artist’s concerts alone. It was fantastic! I really enjoy going to concerts of my favorite artists, and it makes me very happy. It can recharge me. After the concerts end, I feel motivated to keep doing things.

And you know what's cool? Going to concerts alone has helped me make new friends. We met for the first time at the concert, and we've stayed in touch ever since. The reason we turned from fans into friends is that we all love and enjoy the same thing.

That's all about my experiences. As you can see, it's a normal and it's not something to be ashamed of doing things alone. Don't be afraid of going anywhere or doing things by yourself. Simply go where you want and do what you like.It might feel lonely sometimes, but you can handle it and you'll discover the benefits of it.

And if any of you have your own experiences about doing things alone, you can share in the comments below. I can't wait to read it!!